It is difficult to understand the other person’s perspective, specially, when the person is opposite to your gender. No matter what the conditions are, Man and Woman are two different domains of human life. I will focus on the Social terms in particular matter of woman’s perspective based in a conservative society. I live in a society where women are vulnerable in terms of harassment. Being stared at is the most common one, on which, I can bet you would doubt if you were still wearing the pair of clothes on your body that you had technically put on while getting dressed back at home earlier. Interestingly, this sort of harassment is very common but not actually considered as harassment.
Many among us lack awareness and many have indulged themselves in this environment in a way that they do not actually give a crap about it! I have seen women passing by those who stare not even noticing them, if they are around, that they would rather doubt their own existence. At times, situations like these also look like Voluntary Ramp walk show where the Female Model is not initially aware of her audience around. Women like me have gotten used to of such happenings on daily basis that even the criticism is observed not very often. Keeping in mind the ‘Being Stared at – Harassment’, I would pen down a recent personal experience.
In day-to-day life, we bump into number of situations where both the genders are involved which help cue us the inequalities of living comforts. Likewise, I came into a situation with one of my dear friends, we were heading towards a local Food Park where we could enjoy some traditional food, after a long day. There were two gates leading to the dining place, one to the Family area and the other to where I could see only Men were seated. While entering we were too occupied in chitchat that my friend, who was the only male in our tiny gathering of three people, did not appear to notice that we have started stepping into the ‘Only Men’ side of the segregated Food Park. I, with my other female friend, stopped immediately adhered of our subconscious thinking “No, we cannot step in there. If we do, it is going to be super-awkward for us, because people would stare at us”. Without exchanging a word with the female friend, I stood by still outside that entrance waiting for my male friend to realize the ignorance soon and return to us. Which shortly happened, he returned with a courteous gesture of apology to us ladies and we began towards the gate of family area dining spot where females could comfortably, at least, sit and eat.
On our footsteps towards the Family area gate, male friend excused his earlier act by saying that “I was going in my own flow, I realized later that I had women accompanying me” which left me in a thought-provoking state. I started wondering that how different are the flows of men and women at so many levels. We, as women, had just the choice of Family area dine in and the other area was not even an option if we actually desired to enjoy our meals. And at the same point men had both the options open with comfort that they did not have to, first, ponder about where to go sit and relax.
How feasible does that sound? Not even thinking about places where men can comfortably go for recreation without a doubt for any sort of harassment or personal attacks. For women, they always have to work on the plans too much in those terms. Then, I politely remarked to my male friend that “Ironically, you and I are on similar levels of Career, Education and Competency. But, Here I see myself cut back.” How easily it all summed up to leave me one step back in the race of Life.
“Instead of looking at the past, I put myself ahead twenty years and try to look at what I need to do now in order to get there then” – Diana Ross
Damn you, Social barriers! However, the men and women roll differently in various societies, I always feel the victory when someone from the Women speak up for their Rights. To me, I win when my gender raise its voice openly in the society. To those who can hear it from a Woman’s perspective, I am eager to know ‘what is your perspective?’
“We realize the importance of our voices only when we are silenced.” – Malala